We may do very dramatic things, such as harming ourselves in some way (or threatening to do so), going to the hospital, or something similar. Or if you don't deserve that because there is nothing for them to "understand" because i have no real excuse for being this weak pathetic crazy annoying and hurtful person? People with BPD traits often have "object permanence" issues - "out of sight is out of mind". There are other online DBT resources starting up (I will be co-facilitating one of them!) If you have BPD, you may have had work experiences that upset you, the people who worked with you, or both. , Rainbow, I am so pleased and happy that this letter will be helpful to you. If you had told me 10 yrs ago I would be happily married and eventually become a mother I would have given you the finger and told you to shut the F up. This is how people in our BPD community explained these five classic BPD behaviors that are commonly mistaken for being "manipulative": 1. A, The mind is very complex. I know that there are some less-than-helpful sites for Nons, and there are some Nons with some serious issues of their own. Since these providers may collect personal data like your IP address we allow you to block them here. Just be there for her in the end when she needs you. I would try to calm him down by reminding him how much I love him and that I won't give up on him. Self-harm, threatening or attempting suicide. It's only a matter of time before DBT is more readily available and accesible. This time she almost did it. NEA.BPDAust - Family connections. I am sorry you didn't feel loved. Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT, likens us to 3rd degree emotional burn victims. You havebecome a homemaker, a mother and a wife. Borderline personality disorder in the workplace. That can make you act erratically. My girlfriend has BPD, and I've been at my wits' end, not knowing how to deal with it. I've had some, don't get me wrong, just nothing that's helped long-termand now that I *think* bpd hits the nail on the head, it just happens to be this mysterious, new labeland of course no one can see it. All other programs and services are trademarks of their respective owners. Yesterday, I had to say goodbye to a dear friend of mine, because I became emotional and said things I never should have. Her idea of help is everyone doing what she wants, on her schedule. As I read it I want to share it with my husband and daughter for starters but would love to share it to my DBT therapist and group.How do you feel about that? An open letter from those with BPD Jul 15, 2019 An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do Click here to watch the Video Transcript: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, I can tell you, from personal experience, that working on this illness through DBT is worth the fight. Which has had a negative impact in my own life and relationships. It was both painful and hopeful to read it. You know what, I wouldn't have been able to write it 6 years ago. But I fear that she will never forgive me if I maintain I didn't do anything wrong. Debbie,This was an amazing letter that you wrote!!! The roots of abuse in BPD, particularly in intimate significant other relationships with Non-Borderlines have their genesis in the borderline's re-living of this deep intra-psychic pain. Refresh the page, check Medium 's. The letter and all the post did help me a little tonight tho. Something wasnt right, but you still lay down next to me every night. Hugs! Forgot those important facts. heartbroken77 Consumer 0 Posts: 12 Joined: Wed Nov 25, 2009 4:23 am Local time: Mon Nov 28, 2022 2:16 am Blog: View Blog (0) I put my family through hell for years. I am about to give birth to my first child and one of my baby's grandparents most likely has Borderline Personality Disorder (previously diagnosed with Paranoid Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Depression, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, but many of us believe BPD is a more comprehensive explanation and DBT type therapy/interactions are the only things that have consistently had a positive impact). This open letter can be extremely helpful to people who love someone diagnosed with BPD. I wish to God it would stop. Now she teaches DBT, has written several books and has a blog called, Previous post: Finding peace amongst the turmoil, An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do, this blog (Healing from BPD by Debbie Corso), Remind yourself that the persons behavior isnt your fault, Tap into your compassion for the persons suffering while understanding that their behavior is probably an intense reaction to that suffering, Do things to take care of YOU. Don't give up on YOU. Our brains literally disconnect, and our thoughts go somewhere else, as our brains are trying to protect us from additional emotional trauma. But now that i know i have BPD and i know what it means I feel like I will eventually have control over it. I loved this!!! I hope that your sister receives the help that she needs and that you and your family get the support you deserve as well. Its difficult, after all, to relate to others properly when you dont have a solid understanding of yourself and who you are, apart from everyone else around you. Celebrities and Famous People With Borderline Personality Disorder. I believe my daughter has BPD. Life can be hard for all of us at times, and if you are struggling with the problems that face people with BPD then it can get really tough. Reacting to someone with borderline personality disorder is a challenge. Some individuals with BPD tend to push limits, engage in risky behaviors, or seek stimulation in ways that are unhealthy. Maybe he'll come back to me. I suspect that my ex-wife is BPD, but I am at a loss to deal with it because she is completely unaware. Thank you so much for your honesty and strength. A trigger is something that sets off in our minds a past traumatic event or causes us to have distressing thoughts. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a long-term pattern of "abnormal behavior" that is characterized by an unstable sense of self, emotions, and relationships with other people. It wasn't untill this year, despite 15 years of being labelled, i was able to get that changed. My question though is that, yes i have a diagnosis and relate to so much of what you say here, but the diagnosis and 9 criteria is just a list of a way someone is. It is possible that something that you said or did triggered us. And to help others like you do! I think it's easy to ignore these symptoms because unless the BPD is totally irrational, the symptoms can be blown off as just overly emotional or a hard to deal with personality. I think all the time, but, what DO I DO?! I have spent a lot of money and resources to help her in every way, only to be treated like trash. But please know that at the very same time that we are pushing you away with our words or behavior, we also desperately hope that you will not leave us or abandon us in our time of despair and desperation. Dear *My Name*, I wanted to write you and tell you that I'm sorry I couldn't (or didn't) make it work with you. And most importantly, maybe I had a chance to get better. Debbie now teaches the DBT skills that helped change her life over at. Thank you so much. Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, we can learn how to regulate our emotions so that we do not become out of control. It sounds like your Mom cares to find out what's happening for you. I love her but ive been told coz of bpd I have an inability to love, is that true, that I just dilude myself that she was the one? I would be very pleased to share it with you. I am a mess. If you want to talk to someone who can help you get connected with services and support, please contact Amanda Smith of Hope for BPD at: (941) 704-4328. You don't have to be completely "healed" to pursue your dreams. I'm looking forward to reading more of your blog. When I was scared, I ran away and hid. How I did not walk out at that moment is beyond me. Needless to say, if you have a loved one with BPD, life can be fraught with crises and conflict. Not doing anything to make it happenjust wondering why it hasn't. It's sort of comforting that she said that, because it confirms that I probably finally have the right diagnosis. Encourage self-care. People with BPD typically have very strong emotional responses to events that seem minor to observers. Did the self-medicating thing too. Click on the different category headings to find out more. And for all those who DO deserve to be helped, be allowed to heal, and their loved ones who deserve to be supported, thank you for sharing this letter that might help them all live better together and individually. This comment has been removed by a blog administrator. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. None. Thanks. I imploded at the thought of those same emotions and endless possibilities all leading you to leave me, to this. It's seriously messed up. You sound like a good and strong person with a huge heart. Thank you for taking the time to comment here. Even our perception that abandonment is imminent can cause us to become frantic. My wife, whom I believe has undiagnosed BPD, was hospitalized in February for SI. She has a 12 month lease but says she may come back sooner if go into rehab for her ( I am working on my issues with a therapist). I have heard about DBT, butdon't really know much about it. Now go for it!! I am grateful for this letter. Just let her know I sent you, and she'll be happy to point you in the right direction. There are many different borderline personality disorder symptoms or traits including: feeling empty inside. This is an extreemly complicated disorder. I'm really glad she did; now I can see mistakes that I've made dealing with her, and I know how to be a better and more supportive husband. And I know it's because I still have so much to learn. Debbie, what a brilliant letter! Yes, it's good to have a job so that i'm out of the house and not laying in bed all day. BPD Community Victoria. However the couple of times I suggested this we just fight and nothing came from it. I thank you for writing this. i haven't figured out what i think about BPD.. i've been diagnosed with it several times and as a result the system has treated me TERRIBLY. I don't know if I should or should not point out that she has an illness and thus a proclivity to feeling the way she does, without it being my fault. Ask questions. Harder than bringing up 4 kids and being away from them for long periods. I am a non that just recently gave up after 4 years of chaos. If you see anything like this, RUN. Thank you once again. She has told me when she gets this sense of impending doom in the past is when she ends up in the hospital, which she has made it over a year with out being hospitalized. After a few weeks there she came down with a respiratory illness and asked to come back home. Would you mind if I reposted it on my blog (beautyandtheborderline.wordpress.com)? Learn how your comment data is processed. I got itchy, restless, looking for distractions to avoid looking at myself, my escalating issues, facing the things I didnt understand and trying to fill the void when you werent there. I shouldn't have apologised, and this time I won't. You have said all the things I've always wanted to say to the people who are or who have been in my life. The sort of help I needed. The struggle may get easier, but it will always be there. Thank you for being who you are. 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I came across this link on tumblr while browsing and I felt compelled to respond from the perspective of the BPD's child. She is restarting DBT group in a few weeks. I promise you I wanted to be the man you knew, and I desperately wish we could put things back together. I have had to go No Contact because when I do contact him, my addiction to him leaves me suicidal with depression. If I continue living how I am, I doubt I'll see the age my mother saw54. My fiance has BPD. I am currently waiting for DBT treatment and your blog and videos help me no end, i use them on a daily basis, like i'm warming up for the marathon which will be my DBT healing, hopefully. Thank you, and best wishes for the future. Its difficult, after all, to relate to others properly when you dont have a solid understanding of yourself and who you are, apart from everyone else around you. I guess my point is, Is there hope for a person with BPD that can even realize that something is wrong despite I can see many symptoms?Thank you so much for your guidance. It's common to experience other mental health problems and experiences alongside BPD, which could include: Anxiety and panic attacks Depression Eating problems Dissociative disorders Psychosis or hearing voices Bipolar disorder Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or complex PTSD Sleep problems I am a 39yr old female who recently got diagnosed with BPD. He told me about the diagnosis of PD but we never discussed it. Every single time you embrace my stable days when I'm the peachiest version of me you ever get to experience. An open letter to family and friends regarding the person they know with Borderline Personality Disorder, Manipulative, attention-seeking, dramatic, broken, crazy. I hope to afford continuing to see my therapist. Keep up all the good work here! If you do not want that we track your visit to our site you can disable tracking in your browser here: We also use different external services like Google Webfonts, Google Maps, and external Video providers. It was only ever a matter of time and what scared me the most was the thought that youd find someone who would treat you better, who wasnt so weighed down. Aww *hugs* what an insightful post! I am very glad that your husband is open to supporting you and hope that the letter helped. Thank you. DBT stories from people around the world recovering from BPD. , There are still some professionals who are not up to speed with the treatments that can effectively help those with BPD. This website is a collection of information that we have found helpful or of interest in the context of our own lived experiences. Erica shares her story of being diagnosed at 18 and opening up about living with BPD. , Hi Tea You're welcome, and thank you as always for the kind feedback. All of this is new to me, just as it is with so many others, and as much as I would love the help of regular therapy I know that I have to help myself - but it is HARD. Your boss is *probably* trying to be supportive and encouraging in whatever way she knows how, but only YOU know what you need in terms of support at any given time. She's 30 years old. Last but not least, thank you for the wonderful open letter. Thank you for your kind comment. . Thanks for your beautiful letter it reminds me that she can't help it and we were close for 32 years so close. Please trust that, with professional help, and despite what you may have heard or come to believe, we CAN and DO get better. I have ruined many relationships due to my inability to manage my symptoms. Thank you fit writing this letter and for your blog. I am so glad that you believe it will be helpful. I briefly contemplated not telling my story because of that very fact, but have decided to post it despite that fact. Thank you so much for your comment. But she arrived the next day with a police office to remove, most, but not all of her remaining stuff. My mother talks to her and says she doesn't even sound like the person we used to know. Initially I thought we just fell out of love and she was unable to deal with that reality (like maybe she needed a larger reason like alcoholism or abuse rather than just drifting apart). Why? As you note, they benefit from the mystery around BPD bc they can more easily confuse people, induce sympathy and get people to excuse their abuse etc. intense mood swings including outbursts of anxiety, anger and depression. If you've ever read anything about BPD, you've probably heard of people who are "abusive . Hi there, I am now in my 2nd month of treatment for BPD, and ,sadly, had all nine of the symptoms. I may feel hopeless, but I dont want other people to. Somewhere between 1.6% and 5.9% of adults in the US have BPD, a personality disorder that's characterized by difficulty regulating emotion. I want to know that honesty and loyalty exist. Also, I was a VERY positive person just a few years agoI was even called a Pollyanna! and constructing a gulf of silent hostility between us as a way to soothe the slashed open scars of previous . We may avoid you, not answer calls, and decline invitations to be around you and other times, all we want to do is be around you. I have been diagnosed with other things except for this. Hello thank you so much for sharing. An Open Letter to People Who Write About Borderline Personality Disorder | by Rivka Wolf | Invisible Illness | Jan, 2023 | Medium 500 Apologies, but something went wrong on our end. My mother has informed herself about bpd, so that she can give me the support I need in a way that I can accept it. I am very excited for your ongoing healing! If you have decided to tap into your strength and stand by your loved one with BPD, you probably need support too. Its important that we stay safe and not hurt you or ourselves. Princess Diana: The disorder is also prevalent in royal families, and the most charismatic and famous celebrity suffering from it was Princess Diana. I had my breakdown in 2003 at 39 yrs old went from happy and singing to feeling like I was being watched and crawled under my desk at workscared too death to come out and feeling like a little girl. Take care allTim. The last incident was only a week ago and it took two days and me apologising in the end in order to solve the problem. It's nice to hear this from a BPD perspective. I am sorry that my borderline personality disorder (BPD) got in the way of our family and us. Impulsive behavior is a primary symptom of BPD. OMG. Thank you for the letter and I have seen a lot of younger people diagnosed early in life.I remember feeling this suicidal attempt when I was 15..but never went for any therapy..I just lived life and had my children and worked all the time too. On the resources page of. Deal with the label in a way that makes sense to you. I was diagnosed with BPD about seven years ago. 4301 Wilson Blvd., Suite 300 You can check these in your browser security settings. "It was a sort of love few other people could understand. I have watched you over the course of our relationship walk over many mountains. Write as much as you'd like, pour out your heart and soul and tell him how hurt you are and how much you didn't deserve such horrific treatment. Just a thought. I no longer do the things I used to do. Don't think we will ever get back now, gotta give it to her though, she was the only one who understood me. If you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you might have experience with being called "obsessive.". Having empathy, or an understanding of BPD, does very little in terms of helping someone heal from, or protect themselves from, this abuse. She has left several times before, but this time I don't see a reunion. I am LOST! That is wonderful. Even in this letter, she puts me on a pedestal and subsequently knocks me off it. Debbie, Dave, thank you so much for taking the time to comment. This letter really hits hard. We can learn grounding exercises and apply our skills to help during these episodes, and they may become less frequent as we get better. The mood swings experienced by people with BPD can lead to issues with impulsive behavior and can contribute to relationship problems. The letter F. An envelope. The right kind of help. I have been reading many different sites and randomly came to your blog tonight. We use cookies to let us know when you visit our websites, how you interact with us, to enrich your user experience, and to customize your relationship with our website. I've been blamed by doctors who put me on these meds that I'm on too manyand the last one (after I discussed BPD he's a complete idiot and asked *me* what the therapy "DBT" was called) said to me, "You have a serious personality problem", in response to me answering how I'd been doing. They have similar symptoms, but I don't believe they can be classified the same. "Snap out of it". Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition. My perception as a child was that I was, in fact, the cause of her turmoil. Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. This is the hardest thing of all for me to overcome. Thank you again. How is this possible? People will tell you that whatever you did was your fault, and you will believe it, but they dont and cant understand how hard you fought to keep control. Your letter really helped us become closer, as it explained some things in a way that I cannot yet. What is a BPD such as she expecting from me? , You have made so much progress!! You might feel like you're being held hostage . I am a woman with BPD. Any suggestions? I have read through a lot of your blog and so much of it sounds like me. Thank you for your heartfelt comment in response to my letter. Have a great evening. Just try.Won't work. And a couple days ago I put my guitar away and said, Im done.. this was so encouraging. I am borderline, but also bipolar, which I take medication for. We had to behave in ways that would please the caregiver at any given moment in order to stay safe and survive. I buried and oppressed all my feelings and emotions inside because I was afraid of ruining the one thing I had that made me feel slightly better, our family you and the children. My ex is a very convincing and extremely intelligent person. and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! Try to deny it. Debbie, Hi Anne thank you for commenting. These cookies collect information that is used either in aggregate form to help us understand how our website is being used or how effective our marketing campaigns are, or to help us customize our website and application for you in order to enhance your experience. Thank you so much for this letter. Part of that process is for the parents to submit to therapy as well. Any therapist helping a child of a borderline to recover will recommend that they protect themselves from the abuse and their abuser. over the years I couldn't figure out why I did the thjngs I did and people dealing with my behaviors would always resort to calling me crazy. I am very glad to hear about the understanding you're experiencing within your family. You've been peeking in our windows. Borderline personality disorder is a pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, problems with self-image, intense emotions, and impulsive behavior. However, looking back, all the signs were there, but I just didn't see them. We need 2 cookies to store this setting. Again this is NOT your fault. I want to know that humanity can be beautiful. It's not a rash or a broken bone. This is the most dreaded Dx to come across according to my colleaguesif it was so bad, why would it be my problem? The stigma. 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